Bootylicious Rule #7

Have you ever had the feeling upon meeting someone that you should just turn and run and get as far away from that person as you possibly can? That feeling in your gut that tells you that this person is not going to mean you any good?

A few years ago, I had this feeling upon meeting a certain person. I remember her coming to my door and everything in me screamed, “Leave her alone!” And you know what? I didn’t listen.

Initially, things were fine, we got along okay. She had a couple of parties and invited me, she would stop by and we would talk, and our conversations were pleasant enough. At the beginning, things were so cool that I chalked my ill feelings up to paranoia. But soon, my intuition was validated.

At first it was subtle things, she would make little comments about my appearance, or my artwork, or my house. Then it got worse, and she would make little remarks about me in front of my husband. A couple of times, she called my husband at work just to talk, and called the house to speak to him instead of me (which if you know me, didn’t go over well). It was hard for me to admit, but she was masquerading, she was playing the role, she was trying to get over on me. That girl, was not my friend.

I actually let this mess go on for a while because I couldn’t believe that this was happening to me and I was still trying to have faith that she couldn’t really be as bad as I thought she was. I didn’t want to believe that I was overreacting.

Finally the last straw, she belittled my choice to stay at home with my children rather than working like she was doing. And she did it in front of other people as of way of making me the butt of the joke. I realized at this point that no matter how I tried to spin it or how I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt, she took great pleasure in making me feel bad, so I had to make it clear that there was no place for her in my life. Of course I didn’t end it before I endured quite a bit of pain, self doubt, and sadness. All of this could have been avoided, if I had just listened to my intuition and realized that not everyone is my friend.

People will come into your life, and people will go. Some will be real genuine friends that will be there for you when you need them, that will have your back, and will never do you any harm. And others are just meant to enter your life and keep on moving.

A serious Diva listens to her intuition, she trusts her gut, she knows that everyone is not her friend, and that people can not always be trusted.
She doesn’t allow people to come into her life who treat her badly and if they do come into her life, she doesn’t allow them to stay there.

Surround yourself with people that enhance your life, get rid of those who don’t, and always use that special Diva’s intuition to help you know the difference.

Bootylicious Rule #8