Bootylicious Rule #9 Divas Don’t Wallow

We all have to deal with things in life that are not pleasant, or that make us sad, and sometimes things that may seem even downright horrible. And we have every right to feel the feelings that these events stir up in us; we should acknowledge them and deal with them as they come. But something we should never allow ourselves to do, no matter how tempting and easy it may be, is to let ourselves wallow in self pity.

It is so easy to get stuck in the cycle of feeling sorry for ourselves, or beating ourselves up, or even blaming ourselves for the the bad that comes into our lives. It is especially easy when we feel as if we have nowhere to turn or that no one understands. But we have to look within ourselves and find the strength that is sometimes lying dormant and draw from it to move beyond the things that threaten to keep us down and take us out.

Holding on to old hurts, or even dwelling too long on new ones can destroy not only our outlook on life, but our mental and physical health as well. The inverse of this, is dealing with the issues head on, speaking up when we need to, and or leaving situations that bring us discomfort and unhappiness. And drawing strength from the knowledge that others may be enduring something even worse than what we may be facing.

I am not saying that it is easy, or that we will always be towers of Teflon strength deflecting every evil that comes our way with ease and finesse so that nothing every bothers us. That is unrealistic. But I do believe that if we understand that sometimes we are going to have to endure pain, injustice, and even drama, we can prepare ourselves to go through it coming out only slightly bruised and more wise, rather than staying stuck in it and allowing it to destroy who we truly are.

This post was inspired by the article, After Yesterday’s Little Rant on
Lwayswright’s Webblog
Please check it out, it is definitely a good read.