On Being a Courtesan

A few days ago, I was checking out different blogs about women when I came across a whole group of blogs dealing with the topic of being a Courtesan.  It was fascinating to skim through the different blogs and take a sneak peek into the minds of different women who have used this profession as a way of making their living.

Without getting into the morality of the subject because I am sure the debate could go on and on about whether it’s right or wrong.  Or the fact that some believe that the word courtesan is just a fancy way of saying prostitute. I have often wondered, if it is something that I could do.  Well, I know it is something that I could do, but is it something that I would do?

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Blog Review

Since I am fairly new to the blogging world, I have been perusing different blogs to get a feel of what others are presenting in terms of content, design, and wit. I love reading blogs that are funny, sardonic, touching, informative, and/or written from a novel point of view. Our first Blog Review is a poetry blog that I have admired for a while, Ravens Wing Poetry: The Poetry of Nicole Nicholson.

I had my first glimpse into Raven’s Wing Poetry when Nicole commented on a poem that I had written and I have to say that I was more than impressed. She impressed me once again when she composed the poem Intuition inspired by Bootylicious Rule #7.

If you love poetry and even if you don’t you can’t help but be inspired by Nicole’s ability to bring forth a great deal of emotion while still using an economy of words. She makes the reader feel that each word has been carefully chosen to allow the reader an opportunity to see what she sees, not only with her eyes, but also with her heart.

Her latest post April 4, 1968 speaks about the day in which the world lost one of its most respected and revered leaders, Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., taking us back to that moment in history that many wish had never taken place.

In her poem, Father, she offers a fleeting glimpse into her relationship with her father and how she is seeking to know him. This poem not only tugs at the reader’s heartstrings, but also prompts the reader to question her own parental relationships.

And my favorite poem, The Worst Advice That I Have Ever Received, is a surprising and humorous short poem essentially about not always listening to others, and following one’s own heart.

I do hope that you will take the time to pay a visit to this wonderful Poetry Blog. Nicole does an awesome job in touching the reader with her simple and refreshing poetry style. She is definitely a Poetry Diva. You will most certainly not be disappointed.

Bootylicious Blog of the Week 1 June – 7 June

The Bootylicious Blog of the Week Award Winner, Opinionated Black Woman was chosen primarily because of the positive commentary on events that occur in everyday life. She breaks down her ideas in such categories as, In My Opinion, where she talks about her views on such subjects as politics and life. She also has favorite movie and book categories, respectively titled, Movie Watcher and Page Turner. The Opinionated Black Woman has a very easy to read writing style that gets her point across without being overly preachy, whiny, or wordy. This is a thoughtful, well organized, and relevant blog that the Opinionated Black Woman is actually thinking about retiring. So please stop by and check out her work, and send her some encouragement to stay around and keep on doing what she is doing.

Congrats to our Bootylicious Blog of the Week Winner, Opinionated Black Woman

Fashion and Sex

I was visiting the Marmalade Skies, a very interesting blog by Ms Penny Lane, a 20 year old college student in the UK. She asked the question in a very insightful post, is fashion just sex? And of course she went into far more detail than I will here, but I thought this was a topic worth exploring a little bit, so here are my two cents.

I do believe that a lot of fashion revolves around being sexy, but I have also found in my life that most women actually dress up for other women. And we tend to grow our hair long, make up our faces, and wear more revealing clothes for men. Most men don’t really care what you have on as long as they can catch a glimpse of skin or a curve here and there. But women can be catty, so you want to look your best in order to avoid criticism.

Think about it, we carry designer purses, and shoes, we take extra care to coordinate all of these things. But we don’t carry that purse for the men to notice. If a man did notice, we would assume that this wasn’t the kind of man that is interested in us for sexual reasons, if you know what I mean.

I do believe that the sexuality plays a role when you look at the competition between women. The woman who can show more skin, or fit into the smallest size somehow wins. The natural thought process behind this, is she who is skinniest is sexiest and therefore is the most desireable. Of course we know this is not the truth because after all, I am no where near skinny and I think I am just as sexy as they come. Just kidding… okay not really. = )

The bottom line, clothes are becoming more revealing, that is a fact. But there are men out there who think a woman in sweats can be sexy, or they may even find a woman dressed up in boy clothes to be a sexy departure from the norm. In my experience, if a man finds a woman to be sexy, it is usually not about the clothes, it is actually more about the woman.

If you are interested in reading more on this topic, please give Ms. Penny Lane a holla at Marmalade Skies, I am sure she will be glad to see you. Oh and to answer your question Ms. Penny Lane, you are not a pawn in the selling of sexiness. You simply want to look good as we all do. And not just for men, but for everyone. ( ;