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Bootylicious Rule #14 Save the Drama for Your Mama

Save the drama for your mama it is not a new saying, but it is still a very relevant one. We all know her, that one friend who’s life is one movie after another. She is not alive unless there is some crisis, life threatening situation, or world ending scenario that she is facing.

She is the friend who sends the food back several times because it just isn’t to her liking, she complains about the movie or the choice of restaurant, or the sales clerk at the store, or her kids or her significant other constantly. Every time something doesn’t go her way, she believes it is because the world is against her or that people are out to get her.

I will be honest, people like this make me really tired. I have had more than one friendship fall by the wayside because I just couldn’t allow myself to be caught up in the day to day craziness that I was having to deal with every time I picked up the phone or spent time in their presence.

To read more on Bootylicious Rule #14, please visit my sister blog, All Things Bootylicious.

Bootylicious Rule #12 – Don’t Second Guess Yourself!

Do you have an idea that you have been dying to act upon, but you keep coming up with reasons why that idea won’t work?  Do you know that you have a skill, a talent, an ability that would benefit the world greatly, but you keep finding excuses to keep it hidden?  Some people would call this procrastination (which we will cover later). Some really Type A people may say it is lack of motivation, but I personally believe that this is nothing more than a mere matter of second guessing our own intuition.

It is not something that we mean to do, or even realize that we are doing. It is often just the normal manifestation of fear when we set out to do something big, or new, or that could completely change our lives.

As we grow as Divas, it should be our goal to gain confidence, high levels of self-esteem, and a new found sense of boldness.  We should start believing in ourselves more, and trusting that we know what is best for our own lives. We should follow through with the ideas and plans that we have for our lives rather than sabotaging ourselves by placing road blocks and obstacles in between our goals and ourselves.

So what does second guessing ourselves look like?  When I first had the idea to write a blog about being a Bootylicious Diva, and sharing aspects of my life and experiences that most would consider private, I told myself things like, “No one wants to read about my life”, or “bootylicious, that is not even a real word”, or “Who will listen to me? I am not a celebrity, or rich, or famous.”  This whole line of thinking was nothing more than a way for me to allow fear to deflect me from the original purpose. The purpose of bringing my little bit of experience and optimism, to other women who may need a little motivation.  

Basically by telling myself these things, I was leaving the traffic on Main Street to take the much easier secondary, side road. Everyone knows that all of the best attractions are on the main roads.  So I wasn’t going to be doing anyone any favors by taking a short cut.

When I stopped second guessing myself, and began to follow my first mind, my purpose, I gave myself the outlet to express myself freely, and if I had not done that, I would not have been introduced to the wonderful world of blogging and I would not have encountered all of the wonderful people and their ideas. And most of all, the Bootylicious Diva Brand (TM) would not exist.  I still don’t know where it will take me, but I do know that I am cruising on Main Street now, and I am definitely on my way.

So, what are some things that you have been second guessing yourself about?  What would it take for you to get off the secondary road and start cruising on the Main Street of your own life?

 

 

 

What is a Bootylicious Diva?

I know the word bootylicious may seem like a strange word to positively describe a woman. Many of you may be saying, “What is this bootylicious thing you speak of?” But when I see a woman with voluptuous curves, who embraces her body, or women who may not be very voluptuous at all but still feel comfortable in their own skin, or the woman who feels and thinks that she is beautiful and sexy no matter what anyone else thinks, I think, now that’s a bootylicious diva. It is a fun, juicy word that says a mouthful and means even more.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I can’t help but be reminded of when I first saw Destiny’s Child perform the song about their bodies being too bootylicious. They were celebrating curves, celebrating beauty, celebrating the way as women we are all different but still desirable. That song reminded us that there is not just one standard of beauty that we should all aspire to. It also showed us that we as women should use our God given gifts, mental, physical, and emotional to achieve whatever it is that we strive for.

I believe that every woman is powerful and that we are all beautiful in our own way. Some of us realize it and we take every step necessary to make sure that the world sees us for who we are and some of us are still trying to achieve it, but we are very much on the right path. But one thing is for sure, we all have great potential, and we should all have the hope and courage to live the best life we want to live, to be the best women we can be, and to show the world every aspect of our glorious bootyliciousness.

Now I want to hear from you.  Do you appreciate your body, your talents, your gifts ? Are you a bootylicious diva?  If you don’t think you are, how do you think you could start living the life that you want?

Bootylicious Rule #10 – A Full Length Mirror Is Your Friend

Have you ever been out and about during the course of your daily life and happen to run across someone who clearly got dressed without realizing what they looked like from behind? I am not talking about someone who threw on a pair of sweats or shorts to run out of the house on a quick errand. I am talking about people who clearly are heading out somewhere, took the time to get dressed, may have even coordinated the outfit over some time, but obviously didn’t take the time to check out everything from all angles. Especially the angle that shows that side of you that you normally don’t see but everybody else can.

I have seen individuals with fluorescent underwear not peeking out, but hanging out of the top of their pants, skirts and shorts that are clearly too high in the back, but look just fine from the front, and panty lines so deep that they made the person look like they had four cheeks instead of two.

I have to believe that there is just no way that people would walk out of the house like that if they actually knew what was going on literally behind their backs. And how do you tell some complete stranger that their panties are making their butt look like the four square game that we used to play in elementary school, or that you can actually see their cheeks peeking out and waving at you from across the room and they are not even bending down?

It just breaks my heart to see otherwise attractive women who take time to painstakingly apply their makeup, ensure that their hair is perfectly coifed, and even shave or wax all of the hair from their bodies, and pay obscene amounts of money for an outfit and forget to look at how their backside may or may not look in that brand new pair of pants.

Before you leave the house next time, take the time to look in the mirror, turn around, bend over and squat, really see how the outfit looks from every angle including how that dress looks when the light hits it. Because seriously, if I have given up bras, do you think I am going to wear a slip? Nah, I don’t think so. But I am not gonna let anyone see the goodies through my skirt either.

And if you don’t have a full length mirror, ask someone in your house to check you out before you step out into the world. If there is no one in your house, go to a neighbor’s house. No it is not the end of the world, and you may be just fine with the attitude that ignorance is bliss, but try to do whatever you have to do to ensure that you put your best face and your best bootylicious assets forward. Because really, do you want to think that someone is writing blogs like this about you?
Exactly, I didn’t think so.

Bootylicious Rule #2 Celebrating Our Curves

No matter who you are, you have something that you should celebrate about yourself, especially when it comes to your body.  All divas should celebrate the bodies that they’re in, especially if they are thinking about changing themselves.  We can’t be the best that we want to be until we accept what we already are. so start appreciating your bootylicious self today and loving who you are and making her the best she can be and soon you will see the pounds melt away, or the skin clearing up, or whatever minor flaw you think you may have disappear or simply not matter anymore.  The world will See fabulous if you allow your present self to BE fabulous.

I know that I am always talking about booties and being bootylicious. That is because I think it is important for every woman to celebrate her curves, and for that matter, every man should celebrate the curves of every woman too. I am proud of my bootylicious body. Stick figures are for comic strips.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Am I a little narcissistic when it comes to my curves?? Ya damn skippy I am. If I don’t think I’m sexy, who else will?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I am appreciating everything 

about myself no matter who 

else likes it.

I hope all the women who read this are as excited about their unique bodies as I am. Love yourself, you’re the only you that you’re ever gonna be.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If you are interested in reading more about my views on being a diva, bootylicious or just plain fabulous, check out my post on why I call myself the Sexy Bootylicious Diva Muse, What’s In a Name.

Bootylicious Rule #3

What Does it Mean to Be Genuine?

I know that I have spoken a lot about looks, being fabulous, and other seemingly superficial topics.  But no one is any of these things all of the time.  It can seem brave to put on a public face and pretend like everything is perfect and wonderful and beautiful when it isn’t.  But in all actuality it is probably a lot more brave to admit that things are not perfect, to admit that life is not pleasant sometimes, and that things may NOT be okay.  

Being genuine or true to yourself means admitting that you don’t have all of the answers, that you are wrong sometimes or that you are not feeling much like putting in the effort to be perfectly stunning every minute of everyday.

So often, we get stuck in “perfection” mode where we have faked the funk for so long, we don’t even know ourselves anymore.  We are so hidden by the makeup, the perfect hair, the expensive outfit, and the over-the-top attitude, that when we look in the mirror, it doesn’t seem like flesh and blood is staring back at us.

Today, look deep inside yourself and see who is really living in there.  Ask her what she wants, give her a break from the heaviness of fabulousness, and let her natural genuine beauty shine through. You might be surprised what she tells you when you find her.  How she feels forgotten.  How she wishes that you would take some of the pressure off so she can be free to be herself and breathe.  She may be weary of the act and it may be breaking her down rather than building her up.  After all if we are really being true to ourselves, then we have to know that even the most fabulous diva needs break from perfection sometimes.